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SUMMARY:Working With Guilt
DESCRIPTION:Register\n				 \n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				Register here\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n					Sunday\, April 4\, 2027 - Working With GuiltPlease enable JavaScript in your browser to complete this form.Please enable JavaScript in your browser to complete this form.Name *FirstLastEmail *I am a *NYIGT MemberGuestMy location *How did you find out about this event? *What interests you about this event? *		\n			you you or\n			\n		\n		Comment or messageSubmit  \n				\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n			\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				Please note the new 12:45 p.m. start time.\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				Presenter: Anna Yudin \nDescription: \nHow can a therapist work with clients who struggle with excessive guilt? How should a therapist respond when clients take on more responsibility for a situation than actually belongs to them? \nIn our founding text\, Gestalt Therapy: Excitement and Growth in the Human Personality\, Perls\, Hefferline\, and Goodman write: “Contact\, the work that results in assimilation and growth\, is the forming of a figure of interest against a ground or context of the organism/environment field.” A need emerges as a figure and develops through the contacting process. We may find something that satisfies the need and experience completion\, or the need may remain unmet and we experience frustration. Frustration is an inevitable part of life\, but it may become frightening or overwhelming when a child does not receive sufficient support in understanding and bearing the experience. \nIn situations of neglect\, for example\, children often do not receive such support. A child may organize the situation through conclusions such as “Something is wrong with me if my needs are not met” or “The other person is bad if they do not give me what I need.” Self-blame and blame of others may provide an explanation for an otherwise confusing experience and protect the child from feelings of helplessness\, uncertainty\, or isolation. What begins as a creative adjustment may later become a rigid pattern of guilt\, resentment\, self-punishment\, or exaggerated responsibility. Processes such as introjection\, deflection\, and retroflection may help the child structure and make sense of a situation in the face of not knowing. \nThe therapeutic task is to help clients become aware of their needs\, experience frustration with greater support\, and distinguish what responsibility belongs to them\, what belongs to others\, and what belongs to the situation itself. Through contact with the therapist\, clients may have a new experience of being heard\, understood\, and supported where this was previously unavailable. They may then discover new ways of creating safety without automatically resorting to self-blame\, blame of others\, or self-punishment. \nIn this workshop\, I will present the theoretical background of my model for working with guilt and offer an experiential exercise and/or a clinical demonstration to show how the model can be applied in practice. \nBiography: \nI am a teacher\, supervisor\, and practitioner in the Gestalt approach. My education includes training in Gestalt therapy\, and my professional work brings together practice\, supervision\, teaching\, and writing. I am also the creator of professional seminars and educational projects\, as well as the author of books and articles that help Gestalt therapists and students in their development. I work with clients\, train specialists\, and create space for deep professional exploration\, with particular attention to ethics\, methodology\, clinical research\, and authentic human contact. I was born in Russia\, lived in Norway for 20 years\, and now live in Cyprus.
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SUMMARY:Love at First and Last Sight: Disappointment\, Sorrow\, and Grief\, With Special Emphasis on Couples Therapy
DESCRIPTION:Register\n				 \n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				Register here\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n					Sunday\, April 25\, 2027 - Love at First and Last Sight: Disappointment\, Sorrow\, and Grief\, With Special Emphasis on Couples TherapyPlease enable JavaScript in your browser to complete this form.Please enable JavaScript in your browser to complete this form.Name *FirstLastEmail *I am a *NYIGT MemberGuestMy location *How did you find out about this event? *		\n			find this message\n			\n		\n		What interests you about this event? *Comment or messageSubmit  \n				\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n			\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				Please note the new 12:45 p.m. start time.\n			\n				\n				\n				\n				\n				Presenter: Michael Vincent Miller \nDescription: \nThere are difficult – and inevitable – stretches that one will encounter in any lasting intimate relationship. They tell us that loving will always at some point involve dealing with loss. How to face and contend with these darker stretches that come up in intimacy is one of the greatest dilemmas in the life of couples. It always shows up in couples therapy and in much of individual therapy as well. The prospect of loss plays a major role in the anxieties that accompany virtually all our loving. It can lead\, for example\, to fear of commitment\, to one or both partners absenting themselves psychologically even while staying in the relationship\, or to one or both partners trying to gain control of the other and the relationship. \nGestalt therapy challenges us to embrace what exists\, even the more difficult and disturbing elements of our lives. The optimism inherent in Gestalt therapy resides in its belief in the powers of transformation. In this presentation\, we will explore the possibilities through which the unpleasant experiences of disappointment in love\, as well as sorrow and grief\, although never to be enjoyed\, can be reshaped and reframed into extraordinary opportunities for self-transformation and growth. \nBiography: \nMichael Vincent Miller\, PhD\, has practiced and taught Gestalt therapy for over 40 years\, primarily in New York City. He was trained in Gestalt therapy by its original founders. He has also been on the faculties of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and Stanford University\, during which time he held the Stegner Fellowship in Poetry. He also received an award from the Academy of American Poets for one of his published poems. He was a co-founder of the Boston Gestalt Institute. He is a former president and currently a fellow of the New York Institute for Gestalt Therapy. Michael is the author of numerous articles\, reviews\, and introductions to books\, and his own book Intimate Terrorism (W.W. Norton) has appeared throughout the world in nine languages. He is also the author of Teaching a Paranoid to Flirt: The Poetics of Gestalt Therapy (The Gestalt Journal Press)\, a collection of essays\, and\, most recently\, Paths of Curiosity (l’Exprimerie\, France).
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